How To Find Your A-Game In Internet Marketing

I don’t even know how to begin this how to find your A-game in internet marketing blog post but let’s go straight to the point and save some digital ink.

I simply stopped publishing articles on MarketingWithSergio.com

Call it lack of time, getting married, getting a new full time job, etc.

The result was still the same, a 100% abandoned blog.

Despite all of that, I did write a few things in January and February like these:

I was just publishing one article per month, I did one in March:

Another one in April:

Then I skipped an entire month and didn’t publish anything until June:

Wrote a few articles on my personal development blog at SergioFelix.me like:

Then five months went by and I wrote another lonely blog post on Marketing with Sergio on November 2014:

Finally, this article you’re reading right now is being written three months after my last publication.

I didn’t plan any of this.

So I guess life just happened.

What’s Your Story?

There can be numerous reasons why you may abandon your blog, sabotage finishing your first information product or stop whatever you are working on.

I can tell you that after working as an online entrepreneur for 4.5 years, I have seen hundreds of people come and go.

Feel free to make your own mix with these:

  • desperation
  • anxiety
  • not enough time
  • stress
  • low self esteem
  • not knowing what to do
  • information overload
  • analysis paralysis
  • fear
  • lack of funds
  • being pulled in different directions
  • social/friends/family pressure
  • mortgage
  • kids
  • school / university
  • full time job
  • etc

It’s an endless list.

And if you’re not ready for it, it’s going to be one hell of a bumpy ride.

Abandoning your blog and your online dreams suddenly become a really easy choice after the massive roadblocks you may find in the way.

“Screw the headaches, I’m not made for this Internet Marketing thing”.

Hence why people say there’s a really tiny percentage of newbies that actually become successful online.

And I believe this is true.

It can be really hard and sadly not everyone is going to make it.

Work from the Inside Out

Whatever your current situation is, I have found that you have to work from the inside out.

As soon as you first search for “how to make money online” there probably is something wrong going on in your life, at least financially speaking.

Of course the first recommendation you are going to get from other people, is you need to buy something to fix your current situation.

This is called marketing by the way.

Or in other words…

“The act of closing the gap between someone with a need and someone with a solution.

To make things even more confusing, if you’re a long term newbie the last thing you need to do, is to keep buying even more things:

  • plugins for your blog
  • scripts you don’t need
  • trainings you are going to take “when you have some time”
  • services you’ll never use
  • better hosting providers when you don’t even have any traffic
  • coaching programs
  • kindle books you are never going to read
  • done for you things you don’t know how to use
  • etc

If you don’t have the right mindset, it doesn’t matter how much money you throw at your problem.

The problem will never go away unless you know exactly (or at least have a very strong idea of) what you’re doing.

But, having the right mindset still comes first than anything else and it helps.

Have the Right Mindset

Identify the problem by its core and chances are, you will already know what to do in order to fix it.

You know how the saying goes:

“You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink”.

No matter how much you pay a coach, he (or she) will never be able to replace you.

Sure thing, you can outsource stuff, get a lot of things done for you, have the best looking blog or sales page or whatever but at some point you are going to be required to show up.

And if you don’t do that right, everything is going to fall apart.

And you’re going to have to start from square one.

Again.

Until you decide to just quit internet marketing for good and become another statistic.

Take Action

If you feel like doing a small exercise I’m going to recommend that you do the following:

1. Make a list of all the good and bad things that you do.

This can be waking up early (or late), being very good at organizing yourself (or not), being able to follow instructions (or not), etc.

2. Eliminate all the good things you wrote (do write the complete good and bad things anyway even if you already read this first) and focus on the most negative points for now.

3. Create your own plan of action to get rid (or at least control) all the negative stuff you can tackle.

Whether it is alcohol, lack of proper organizing, not having enough funds, whatever it is, make a plan to fix that and stick to it.

“A chain is only as strong as its weakest link”.

By focusing on your most negative aspects first, everything else will naturally flow and the things that actually matter, will be a lot easier to complete.

I’m not a personal development coach but I have witnessed this myself a number of times, you can read about a recent experiment I did about being completely sober for 30 days here (I completed 40 days though):

I’m still benefiting from doing that soberness experiment to this day so this stuff really works.

4. Follow through with your plan until you either have minimized this negative aspect of yours or have it under control.

Everything will change for the better and only then, you can start focusing on what you need to do, marketing wise.

You can now safely buy that new coaching program, new plugin or whatever you need to get unstuck.

Important: If you’re not crystal clear sure of what you want to accomplish with internet marketing, you may end up putting the cart before the horse, this is why it is so important that you know exactly what you’re doing first and where you’re going.

Conclusion

Internet marketing is not easy and is not immediate either.

But if you are willing to put in the time, work hard for it and understand that falling down is part of the process, then your chances of succeeding are rather high.

Actually, I could tell you that you could take success for granted if you follow all these recommendations.

But unfortunately, every single person is a case study of its own and I don’t have a crystal ball either so all I can do for you is quote my good friend:

“People do not fail at internet marketing, they simply give up before the magic happens.”

~Brian G. Johnson

If you have a spare minute, let me know what you think in the comments section and if you don’t, that’s fine too, a social media share will do. ;-)

Have a great weekend!

Sergio

PS. A friend of mine wrote this fantastic article today: Mindset and Making Choices

I couldn’t be any more happy about it!

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52 Responses to How To Find Your A-Game In Internet Marketing

  1. Cararta March 1, 2015 at 9:11 am #

    Hi Sergio,
    Broke my own rule to come here and read.
    First of the month and bill pay time.
    But saw the notice…knew it meant
    something great to read from my friend Sergio!
    Just to add to the picture you have painted above of life in the real world and life kicking around on the internet:
    I’m not listing the things I should have done, but didn’t do, but what I intend doing from this point forward.
    The inspiration.
    I think Adrienne Smith ( AdrienneSmith.net) defines a few things
    that seem simple enough to do, but in reality get pushed aside.
    After the admonition for being honest, ethical and providing quality information to your readers…
    She says, “Be consistent.”
    My take:
    If you are a blogger and can only manage a limited number of
    posts…then a short post is better than none, but if you post every
    Tuesday..then get it done.
    In a bind?
    Borrow a friend, but get it done.
    Perfection is a dream, but consistency with just a little planning
    is knocking the ball out of the park.
    Thanks for Ambrosia.
    Even Adrienne said recently that she really missed Sergio’s blog,
    because it was on her list of must reads.
    C-

    • Sergio Felix March 1, 2015 at 1:26 pm #

      Hey Cararta, I completely agree with Adrienne.

      Having a posting frequency (and sticking to it) is always great for your audience because that way they already know when to expect new content from you.

      Thank you for letting me know you missed my writings here, Adrienne knows I truly enjoy visiting her blog as well.

      I wasn’t commenting often there but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t reading her Monday updates.

      Cheers and have a great weekend!

      • Adrienne March 3, 2015 at 12:46 pm #

        She’s right Sergio, I have missed you but I totally get it. More than most know but as long as you’re happy that’s all that truly matters! :-)

        ~Adrienne

        • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 6:42 am #

          I am happy Adrienne but I know I could be doing much better!

          We’re planning to have a baby and that is going to make things even more interesting than today but I don’t want to skip ahead in time since my wife is not even pregnant at the time (we’re working on it though)

    • Adrienne March 3, 2015 at 12:45 pm #

      Thanks for the mention Carolyn and yeah, consistency is the key. But as Sergio has put it, life can get in the ay of our well made plans. There have been days I didn’t want to be consistent but it’s really paid off for me. Your tips are really great too, get a friend to fill in or write short posts. The thing is though you still have to promote it and be everywhere and when you work full-time and have a family I just admire those that can do it all. Not sure I could. ;-)

      ~Adrienne

  2. Adrienne March 3, 2015 at 12:41 pm #

    Hey Sergio,

    Sounds like we have been somewhat on the same page. Of course I didn’t get married and take on a full-time job so I can’t use those as excuses. I haven’t quit blogging although as you learned yesterday I was starting to lose my fire.

    I can totally understand why some people quit blogging. I do this full-time and it’s hard to keep up with at times. Because of that the pressure can get to you and then burn out is just around the corner. It’s taking on too many things at one time and not having enough waking hours in the day to do it all.

    You are right that most newbies and even people who have been here for years rarely make it. They don’t have what it takes to keep moving forward and finding what works best for them. It takes a lot of time and dedication as you very well know. If I didn’t hate corporate America so much I would have probably quit by now too. I do love blogging though when I’m headed in the direction I want to go. I know I have helped a lot of people and that brings me pure joy.

    Although I miss those that stop blogging altogether I can’t fault them at all. I think if they’ve given it their all and they’ve found it’s not for them then they should quit. No one wants to so something they don’t enjoy or find a burden.

    Whatever you decide to do we’re behind you all the way. I’m just glad that you’re happy and healthy, that’s the most important two things right there. If you want to come back online and kill it then we’ll support you. If you’d rather just go the corporate route then I’m happy for you too.

    Thanks for sharing this with us and letting us know where your head is, what you’ve been up to and what’s yet to come. Oh wait, I guess I’ll have to find out that as time goes by! ;-)

    Have a great week Sergio.

    ~Adrienne

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 6:34 am #

      Hello Adrienne, first of all thank you for coming here!

      I know what it feels like to come to an old blog that hasn’t had any action for a while so this means a lot.

      I think that the blogging magic relies on the fact that we can create and nurture relationships by doing it. You get to know the person behind the blog and they get to know you.

      For a social person that is a wonderful and addictive thing to do and I wouldn’t blame anyone for not wanting to stop doing it.

      I know it because that’s how I feel as well but it is important to remember that most of us started doing this because we wanted to create a business out of it.

      On the long run, we also learned that we can increase our earnings by focusing on how to help people solve their problems instead of being all about ourselves.

      Blogging can be like writing a book and in our current times publishing to Kindle is not hard but many of us still struggle with either fear of success and/or fear of failure.

      The way I see it now, is that if I publish something on Kindle, it would be the same as writing here with the “small” difference that I would reach and be able to help a lot more people and that in my book, is a win win situation.

      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a wonderful point of view, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you Adrienne, I know you have plans already and I’ll support you as I can with them too.

      Take care and talk soon!

  3. sherman smith March 3, 2015 at 5:56 pm #

    Hey Sergio,

    Long time no see!

    It’s been a good minute and i see you have a new site.

    But I feel you on this. Yes life gets in the way and it does get frustrating. It’s like trying to box against someone with long arms. But you are absolutely right about having the right mindset. You have to have be sure of what you really want, and once you do this, opportunities will come rushing in. At least you’ll start to notice them because they were already there.

    Despite the fact that life gets in the way, you will find the time to put in the necessary work and implement the strategies that you have ignored for so long. You’ll get rid of all of those extraneous stuff that was hold you back so that you can focus on the right things thats going to progress you forward.

    I haven’t got married, but i have this full time job that takes forever to get to and takes forever for me to get back home. Plus I wait until the traffic dies down. So since I’m waiting I take this opportunity (Overlooked by so many because they’re tired from a hard days work) to work on my blog, answer comments, read other blogs, and so on and so forth.

    Anyways bruh, keep moving forward! Obstacles make us better people

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 6:40 am #

      Haha hey Sherman, indeed brother!

      Love the long arms boxing analogy and you’re right. There’s a point reached when you ask yourself something like “well, this is really pointless isn’t it, why am I even trying?”

      The idea is like you said, to figure out what you want and go after that but the problem is, what do we really want?

      I know the feeling about not having time with a full time job, my work commute takes about 25 minutes on each ride but it drives me crazy because I’m fighting traffic, angry drivers, I have to get up earlier too and I do it four times because I do come home for lunch.

      By the time I’m finally done for the day and I open my apartment door, I’m dead tired so working in IM afterwards is doable but it’s super tough to do (now I understand a lot of people saying “I don’t have time because I have a full time job…”)

      Nice to see you here man, thanks for the cool comment and share on social media as well and just for the record I’ll be posting more stuff here more frequently.

      Take care and rock on brother!

  4. Jo Cross March 4, 2015 at 2:57 am #

    Hi Sergio,

    As people have already said here, it is about consistency. I love part of the quote you have shared that says people give up before the magic happens.

    Blogging is in my experience, is all about the long game. I didn’t know that when I started though. We can make it happen but we have to work at it and believe that we can.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and what you are up to.

    Jo

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 6:51 am #

      Hello Jo, welcome to my blog and I totally agree with you, there’s a lot to be learned about blogging and getting direct results from it is certainly going to take some undetermined time and consistency.

      Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you more often Jo, take care and talk soon!

  5. Dee Ann Rice March 4, 2015 at 12:54 pm #

    Sergio,

    I have had a similar experience with not blogging for a period of time. I never let it go for months but I did not blog every week and sometimes it was less than once a month. Life just got in the way. One of my children got really sick and we thought they would die. They lived through it but my blogging did not do as well. Then other things happened and my blogging did not fare very well.

    I finally made the decision the beginning of the year that I was going to get back and do this right.

    I like what you say about getting the right mind set and then taking action. I have not done everything you suggest like you suggest to do it but I have spent a lot of time thinking about just what I want and why.

    I definitely like what you said about starting from the inside out and not just going out and getting lots of stuff you do not need. I have done that in the past and it does not work. I did not do that this time.

    I know you got married and am sure that changed a lot of things. I hope you are happy and if so blogging for you may look really different now than before you were married. I hope all the best for you and look forward to more posts from you in the future.

    Dee Ann Rice

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 10:34 pm #

      Hey Dee, I can only wonder what you felt when your kids got that sick and can definitely understand why something like that would have impacted your blogging frequency.

      I’m glad that you got back to blogging in a smarter way this time and I’m pretty sure things will start to click a lot more for you.

      About writing and blogging after getting married, it’s been crazy!

      Without being too dramatic about it, there’s a lot more time management and organization required to do this right and I also have to be really smart when deciding how I spend the really seldom “spare” time that I get these days.

      Thank you for stopping by and I wish you nothing but huge success on your comeback Dee!

  6. Mitch Mitchell March 4, 2015 at 3:32 pm #

    Oddly enough Sergio, I kind of felt like you about two of my blogs. Trying to keep up with all of them just wasn’t going to do. I just stopped writing on two of them; couldn’t let that stay though.

    So, I dropped one and have been merging some of the articles on that one with IJS. The other… I decided to give myself the option of changing its format so that it wouldn’t have to be as niched as I’d made it. Thing is, it was supposed to be a local blog, but I left town for 18 months on a consulting gig and thus didn’t know what was going on at home. Now that I’m home, I don’t want it to be my only focus.

    Stuff does get in the way. The lucky thing is that blogging isn’t one of those things one “has” to do… unless they’re me. :-) So, write when you want to… course, it’s hard to do internet marketing without doing stuff online, but you sound like you’re pretty secure now. Good luck with it all.

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 10:45 pm #

      Hey Mitch, it’s always very hard to maintain a few different blogs at the same time man and I know you have been doing this for a long time so you still did quite good while it lasted.

      About my new focus yeah, I’ve never been more clear about what I wanted (and now need, being married) so I’m working as hard and smart as I can towards that goal.

      I completely agree with you that blogging is not something we “have to” do it Mitch.

      We either do it because we love it or just don’t do it at all (people can tell when you’re not 100% passionate) and if you’re not crazy about what you’re sharing with the world, then why even bother?

      Thanks for stopping by man, I missed reading your feedback around here but lucky me that we have Adrienne as a friend in common and she reminded me of your blog.

      Take care, talk soon and good luck with your projects!

  7. Dennis Seymour March 4, 2015 at 7:23 pm #

    Hey Sergio,

    I went through that process pretty early, 3 months into starting the company blog, wife gives birth, lots of other life stuff get in the way, then bam, Im gone for a whole month or so.

    So I made it a priority to write in a schedule that fits me and I made sure I planned it ahead.

    I totally understand what you want to convey in the post. I’ve had my share of those over the last 7+ years of doing internet marketing LOL.

    I look forward to seeing more of your work man.

    PS. Life does get in the way often but like me, Im sure the family is the reason why we continue to do what we do.

    • Sergio Felix March 4, 2015 at 11:01 pm #

      Hey Dennis, that’s how I see it now, either you get seriously organized and start planning ahead of time or you’ll get nothing done!

      You’re absolutely right, my main motivation is my wife since we want to have a baby as well and then my dad (he has cancer but that’s another story) I just want him to be able to see me truly happy and financially stable.

      Thanks a lot for stopping by man, I’m truly honored to have you here and look forward to keep exchanging more ideas soon, take care!

  8. Enstine Muki March 5, 2015 at 1:06 am #

    Hey Sergio,
    This is my first time here thanks to blog commenting ;) Another reason not to take down comments is the connections we make ;)

    Well, a lot of things happen in life that make people move away from certain steps they take. This applies to Internet Marketing too. The net has come with many doors but most of these are not opened. You need to hit hard to get some of these doors open for you to walk through.

    Initially, Internet Marketing was easier than it is today. A lot of things have changed. Social media has walked in. Blogging was not a big deal in those days. Search engines have changed making things more difficult. A lot of people coming in now with levity will soon find the exit door.

    But like you concluded, if anyone is willing to put in the time, work hard for it, there are chances of being listed among the few who make it.

    I hope you publish more frequently now so we can keep coming ;)

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 1:47 pm #

      Hey welcome to my site Enstine and completely agree with you my man, blog commenting is amazing if done right and about Internet Marketing, some people have told me you didn’t have to worry so much about making money in the past.

      You would write a good article and that would make you money whether it was through affiliate marketing, something you were selling or literally anything you had to offer (I wish I was interested in IM at THAT time! lol)

      Anyway, thanks a lot for stopping by man, I really appreciate it and you’ve got it man, I’ll be publishing a lot more content in the next days, take care and have an amazing day Enstine!

  9. Mi Muba March 5, 2015 at 3:09 am #

    Hi Sergio

    I was just smiling while reading your post.

    But before telling the reason of my smiling just let me appreciate the way you covered the whole topic and never let readers feel any kind of bookish approach here.

    Yes, I was smiling because just before reading this post I made up my mind to keep focusing at all the three blogs with the same level of attention and will not just down one for the sake of doing more at the two. I just thought what if I could not have made any big change after shelving one of the three.

    The right strategy is to lower the posting frequency to the minimum level as there is no rule of thumb to must publish daily or weekly. One can even go for monthly posting till he has time to get back with more time.

    Thanks a lot for sharing a post on an important topic and so impressed to see high quality contents at your blog and higher level of readers engagement on it.

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 8:37 pm #

      Hey Mi, I’m really glad that you’ve got great value from reading this article and already figured out what to do regarding your three blogs.

      Finding the right balance in your posting frequency sounds about right to me.

      Thank you for stopping by and expressing your thoughts on this humble article, I genuinely appreciate it Mi!

  10. Neena March 5, 2015 at 4:57 am #

    Hi Sergio,
    We all go through blogging funk from time to time.
    And sometimes you have to put it on the back burner and work through it.
    Hopefully this is the beginning of your return. I like Dennis’ idea above about creating a schedule. It can keep you on track even if you don’t feel like writing all the time.
    Looking forward to hearing more from you!

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 8:47 pm #

      Hello Neena, this may sound a bit wrong but I’m actually glad I’m not the only one who went through some bad times with my blog (otherwise I’d feel pretty awful!)

      I do feel like writing all the time but the problem is, I’m not thinking about marketing 100% of the time.

      That’s the main reason why I created a personal blog so I could write about anything.

      I do use schedules a lot but my main focus is more about business in general where I make time to learn new things, record videos for teaching something, taking care of customers, etc.

      I’m going to come up with a posting frequency and lift this blog from the ground up somehow though!

      So thank you for stopping by Neena, you have no idea how great reading these comments make me feel.

      Hope you have a wonderful day and hope to see you again soon, take care.

  11. Craig March 5, 2015 at 6:56 am #

    Hey Sergio – I’ll second the “not enough time” excuse.

    Trying to juggle a full time job, family, has a tendency to keep one busy. In the grand scheme of things, blogging is on the bottom of the list, so that’s what typically gets bumped.

    I’ve been through these funks as well. I try to post something every 2 weeks, but that doesn’t always happen. As a blogger, you have to juggle networking, blog commenting, writing posts, email marketing, responding to comments, and general maintenance of your blog. It’s really meant to be a full time job.

    It all comes down to time management of course. There’s a number of things you can do to take advantage of the limited time one has, It’s a matter of making those other sacrifices if blogging is important enough.

    BTW – First time visitor to your blog. Keep up the great work Sergio, and thank you for the comment on my blog yesterday. Very much appreciated.

    Craig

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 9:04 pm #

      Hey Craig, tell me about it man!

      Many people think that blogging is about writing a few words and then hitting the publish button but it’s not, it’s definitely a lot more complex than that and if you’re not a very organized person (like I was) then it’s surely not going to end up any good.

      If I have learned one thing with the very limited time that I have these days, is that I should always spend my time as smart as possible.

      What’s the absolute best use of these 45 minutes I have during lunch break?

      What’s the most I can get out of waking one hour early before going to work?

      What can I focus on during Saturday or Sunday in case my wife decides to go shopping by herself?

      That’s the kind of questions I ask myself every single day so I have become a highly organized person now.

      I may be going a bit crazy too lol but it’s the only way I can juggle between all the different things I want or need to get done during the day.

      Thank you for visiting my site Craig and sharing your points of view.

      I’m treasuring all the feedback I can get and it helps me stay motivated to keep working even when I’m beyond tired to fire up my computer and get some work done.

      Talk soon man!

  12. Donna Merrill March 5, 2015 at 9:14 am #

    Hi Sergio,

    I do see many of my old blogging buddies leave because of time issues, or a lack of patience. Life happens to us many times and when it does, and we cannot post regularly, we can always grab a friend to pinch hit for us. I blog once a week because that’s all I can handle.

    But blogging is only one piece of the puzzle when it comes to marketing. We just cannot rely on our blog itself. We need to be active on social sites, build sales funnels for opt ins, and focus on split testing…oh my that list goes on and on.

    Our blogs are our “home” and it is where we can build relationships. I love it, but know the reality that things do come up in life and need a plan B just in case. When I’m out and about doing ads people always come to my blog to check me out. There they can find some value in a post, and notice that there is a healthy conversation going on in the comment section.

    If we want to stick to the business of internet marketing it will take time and patience. But I had an off line business before I came online (still do) and have undergone the experience of having a mindset that all businesses take time to develop and grow.

    Just my take!

    -Donna

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 9:18 pm #

      Hey Donna, I know I said on my article I had seen hundreds of people come and go but it would be more precise to say “seen them go” because they never return.

      You’re right that the blog is only a part of the entire business.

      I used to believe my blog was my entire “business” and it took me several years to understand that the blog is just part of a much bigger thing, with a lot of moving parts and when you first understand that, it can be overwhelming.

      Whenever someone is new to either marketing or blogging, you can see the emotion on their first posts, making their first mistakes, talking about plugins, themes, having their first subscriber, etc.

      As soon as they realize they also have to figure out how to stand out from the sea of bloggers out there, whether that involves product creation, offering services, starting consulting, podcasting or something as doing a video, that’s the exact point when people quit.

      I think it would have gone completely different for me if I had kept my offline customers when I had to take my full time job.

      I have really big plans (and they are really scary so I’m sure they’re big enough) and these involve online and offline marketing but zero stuff about keeping my current full time job.

      That’s what I’m working towards and what keeps me motivated on an every day basis.

      Hopefully I’ll get it done soon and inspire others to stick out and follow their gut as well.

      Donna, thanks a lot for coming here and telling me about your story, I highly appreciate it and hope to talk again soon.

      Take care!

      PS. Whenever I tell somebody completely new to Internet Marketing that building an online business is going to require a lot of effort, time and patience to work properly, they (normally) always ask if there’s anything faster than that like using a software or something that automatically makes them money.

      And then people complain about having so many get rich quick schemes out there.

  13. Jeannette Paladino March 5, 2015 at 2:19 pm #

    So, Sergio, are you going to start blogging regularly again? I didn’t see that in your post or maybe I missed it. Blogging can be a slog, and takes commitment. Is that where you want to spend your time or will something else work better for you?

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 10:35 pm #

      Hey Jeannette, I completely agree.

      Running a blog properly, involves a lot of work and to be honest I think I already done my share of that in the past.

      I would love to tell you where I’m headed now but going through all these different phases I learned it is better to be a man of action, than to be a man of words.

      Anyone can throw big words in the air but not everyone can back that up and even less, actually do it.

      If you can take a minute off, I wrote a brieft article here: http://sergiofelix.me/30-days-sober/

      And I think you’ll be able to notice I’d rather do, instead of talk about what I want to do.

      Thank you for stopping by, I really appreciate it and loved the feedback you gave me on your blog.

      Take care Jeannette and talk soon! ;-)

    • Sergio Felix March 5, 2015 at 10:35 pm #

      Oh and yes, I’m still going to keep writing!

  14. Neamat Tawadrous March 6, 2015 at 3:28 pm #

    Hi Sergio,

    Welcome back to blogging and congratulations on your marriage.

    I so much resonated with what you wrote here as I am a wife and a mother of 3 teens and I know how much time consuming it is to keep a blog alive. Sometimes I feel consumed by it and I just want to be the mother I have always been to my house and kids.

    Patience and Persistence is a big part of moving forward with it but for sure it is not an easy ride.

    Thanks Sergio for sharing!! Enjoy your weekend ahead.

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat

    • Sergio Felix March 6, 2015 at 8:06 pm #

      Hey Neamat, it certainly looks like blogging has a recurring theme doesn’t it?

      Patience and persistence are huge virtues when it comes to blogging and I can’t even imagine how it would be for me if I had three teens to take care of as well so kudos to you!

      Thanks for stopping by Neamat and hope you’re having a fantastic weekend too, take care.

  15. Mark March 6, 2015 at 5:05 pm #

    Hey Sergio!

    This is my very first visit to your site and it most certainly will not be my last! I really like your
    “tell it like it is,” cut to the chase style of writing! And it’s obvious by some of your extremely interesting
    headlines, that you obviously have a lot of knowledge and real world experiences to share!

    I’m definitely looking forward to the education!

    • Sergio Felix March 6, 2015 at 8:14 pm #

      Hey there Mark, thanks for the really cool first comment on my site and about my writing style.

      Highly appreciate it and I look forward to see you around here more often.

      Take care and have a great weekend!

  16. Lea Bullen March 8, 2015 at 6:20 pm #

    Hi Sergio,

    Great exercise for figuring out what needs to be improved upon and developing an action plan to turn things around.

    Internet marketing is definitely an adjustment, especially when you’re trying to figure out what works best for you. Throwing anything new into the mix takes a lot of juggling but you make some great points to work it out and get on the road of progress.

    Good stuff Sergio!! Very helpful.

    ~Lea

    • Sergio Felix March 8, 2015 at 6:28 pm #

      Thank you Lea and absolutely agree!

      Juggling all these activities can get tricky when you’re trying to do several things at once, you may not excel on all of them but you definitely can build momentum that will be helpful once you’re clear on what you should focus 100% on.

      Thanks for stopping by Lea, I really appreciate it!

  17. Sylviane Nuccio March 9, 2015 at 4:42 pm #

    Hi Sergio,

    I’m glad I finally landed here along with a nice crowd that I know well.

    You’ve got that right, no matter what or whom you hired, there’s going to be some work to do, some action to take. Nobody we hire to help us is going to replace us, and do what we need to do for us.

    Even though I’m a coach myself, I’ve just paid big money for a coach myslelf, so I am all too well aware of that. I hire her to help me in the steps I want to progress on, for guidance and advice, but not for her to do my job. My homework belongs to me.

    Yes, consistency is key in everything we do.

    And congratulations on your marriage :)

    • Sergio Felix March 9, 2015 at 9:13 pm #

      Hello Sylviane, even coaches need coaches!

      I know this because I’m an IT expert but I obviously do not know everything that there is to know about this field so even I, need help with technical stuff sometimes too and hire people to teach me the workarounds.

      Glad to see you here and thank you for the very cool comment, take care and have a great start of week Sylviane! ;-)

      PS. Extra thanks for the marriage mention!

  18. Nanda Rahmanius March 10, 2015 at 1:15 am #

    Hi Sergio,

    What a motivating post!
    Indeed, if we read the story of someone, it will take a bit of encouragement to us to do things better. :)

    I think, it’s because we feel that we are not alone. We have many friends who have the same thoughts, the same goals and are in the same boat. We can not beat loneliness, I guess.

    I’m glad to see you back again, Sergio.
    I am also happy that you have married. It was nice news to hear. :)

    By the way, I really like the quote from Brian. It’s great quote! :)

    Do have a wonderful week ahead!

    ~Nanda

    • Sergio Felix March 10, 2015 at 7:03 am #

      Hey Nanda, everything becomes a lot easier to achieve when you try it out with someone else so I completely agree with that.

      Glad you liked Brian’s quote, he’s a very smart dude and definitely one fantastic marketer to be friends with.

      Thank you for stopping by, it really means a lot man.

      Take care and have a great day!

  19. Ron Killian March 15, 2015 at 1:00 am #

    Think this is the first time I’ve been here. Enjoy your writing.

    I know all too well about keeping everything going. Been doing the net thing myself full time since 1999 and there have been plenty of times I’ve lost my fire or got burnt out. Actually a number of years ago, I was so burnt out I took a regular job for about 9 months. Didn’t take me long to remember why I got out of the rat race before.

    One thing that works for me (most times) is finding way to “recharge”. Could be getting away from the computer, taking a day off. Could be getting outside or indulging in my hobby. Some days it’s just taking a nap. Well, that’s just one of my ways to get back on track.

    Over the years I’ve learned, even first hand, that it’s very different working for yourself. Well, we all know this. Even though you might have the same need or want for income, it’s no where near the same as a job.

    When you have a job (working for some one else), it’s a matter of, you know you “have to” go to work every day and do the work or you won’t get a paycheck.

    But working for yourself, even with the same financial needs or obligations, that same “have to” is just not there. Even if your desperate for cash, it is not the same.

    It’s not even the fact that the job has a boss. It’s that a completely different world.

    Although I don’t know you, wish you the best in all you do, online and off.

    Just my thoughts. :)

    • Sergio Felix March 15, 2015 at 7:44 pm #

      Hey Ron, your story sounds eerily familiar to mine man (I took a job after being in Internet Marketing full time for 4.5 years and now I have been working for the man for 7 months and I hate it with a passion already)

      What allows me to get rid of negative thoughts or even stress is jogging and I love it and you’re right that it is very different to be working for ourselves than to be working for someone else.

      Right now, I have found I am not giving the 100% in my job and that to me, is just not acceptable. I can’t just give them my resignation letter because it’s a complex story but I will be doing it soon though.

      I just can’t be someone else’s employee, I already tried my best at it and it’s simply not the right place for me.

      Since I’m a professional, I can’t be fooling my boss pretending I love what I do for them so I’m going to talk to them about this soon.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your story Ron, I really liked it and I love that I can see you’re having a great time with your online business (read your about me page) ;-)

      • Ron Killian March 16, 2015 at 12:34 am #

        Ya, it does sound so similar. Can you say Doppelganger?

        Well, jogging is your way yo recharge. It works for you. We all have different ways to getting back in a better mind set. Though I don’t think many people realize they need to do it. Seems they cave and give up. A theory I guess.

        I know where your at, not enjoying the job and not giving 100%. Been there. I so dreaded going to work, couldn’t stand it. It’s what drove me to get out on my own. And ya, like you I got burned out went back to punching the time clock.

        Don’t know about you, but seems it’s even worst to go back. You’ve had a taste of being your own boss, the freedom is such an incredible feeling. Hard to lose that.

        As I said, I wish you the best. You can do it. You’ll be back in the ranks of the work-for-yourselfers soon enough. :)

        • Sergio Felix March 17, 2015 at 1:40 pm #

          Absolutely agree!

          It’s definitely a lot worse to have tasted self entrepreneurship and then going back to being an employee and work for someone else.

          I can definitely see myself clearing my entire debt and building a highly stable business really soon so I’m expecting good things out of this experience.

          Thanks for the very cool wishes Ron, I highly appreciate it!

  20. Dev March 16, 2015 at 7:05 am #

    Hey Sergio,

    I have had somewhat same experience, but I never abandon the Internet marketing thing. I think it is one of the best things that happened to me, and as said in comments, it is all about consistency.

    Last year, one of my main business site got hit by Google penalty (Negative SEO), and I ended up putting new products (that I had plan to launch in 2014) on hold. But since last November things are getting better. And hopefully will be releasing my first product this month.

    Thanks for the fantastic post and update. Love the quote about how people leave blogging, before magic happens.

    • Sergio Felix March 17, 2015 at 1:42 pm #

      Hey Dev, long time no see man!

      I think it’s pretty smart to adapt quick to changes and what you did was exactly that.

      Happy to know things are going better for you and look forward to that first product, is it SEO or WordPress related?

      By the way, I never abandoned Internet Marketing but I surely miss not being able to work full time on it like I did in the past.

      Take care and let me know when that first product is out!

      • Dev March 19, 2015 at 11:05 pm #

        Yeah, mate. It has been a while.

        It is going to be WordPress related (more specifically a WordPress theme). Will do :).

        Cheers
        Dev

        • Sergio Felix March 19, 2015 at 11:30 pm #

          Sounds fantastic, good luck and let me know man!

  21. Avnish April 10, 2015 at 9:19 pm #

    Have the right mindset is really true point because most of the internet marketers are not sure about the steps or way to take right action for online promotion.

    But if there is a good plan you have and very clear about what you are doing is really awesome.

    • Sergio Felix April 11, 2015 at 7:14 pm #

      Hey Avnish, having a tried out plan and being clear on what to do is what counts.

      Thanks for stopping by!

  22. gaurav vashisht March 17, 2016 at 11:49 pm #

    hi sergio,

    I think you are right about the right mindset.
    Most of the new bloggers do not know how to promote their article, how to build links.

    That’s having good plan and to work on to it will make you succeed further and make you more successful in any field.

    Thanks for writing such a great article.
    Keep it up
    Gaurav Vashisht

    • Sergio Felix April 18, 2016 at 11:16 am #

      Glad you liked this Gaurav and thank you for stopping by! ;-)

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